ThoughStardew Valley’sNPCs might seem one-dimensional at first glance, many have a much deeper story beneath the surface. One such character isPam, who spends most nights drinking away her troubles at the Stardrop Saloon.
Though she has hardships in her life, a friend can be good for Pam — and have a few benefits for the player as well.Building friendships with othersis a key part ofStardew Valley,and even though Pam can be gruff, taking the time to get her to warm up can be worth it. Here’s how to win her over.
Updated July 11, 2025, by Demaris Oxman: Now thatStardew Valley’s 1.6 update is available for players on every platform, many are exploring what this version has to offer for the first time. As farmers get settled in Pelican Town, they’ll meet plenty of villagers worth befriending, and one such person is Pam. For those who want to get to know the regular at Gus' saloon (and later, the bus driver to Calico Desert), here are a few tips and tricks.
Best Gifts To Give Pam
Loved Gifts
By treating Pam to a drink or one of her favorite meals, players canincrease their friendship with her by80 points. Note that any gift given to Pam on her birthday, Spring 18, will count for 8x the usual point value.
Liked Gifts
Though not as great of an increase, Liked gifts will increase the player’s friendship with Pam by45 points.The following are all good choices, if the player doesn’t have Pam’s Loved gifts on hand.
Disliked & Hated Gifts
If the player gives Pam a gift that she dislikes or hates, herfriendship with the player will decrease.Hated gifts lead to a greater drop in points than disliked ones, but none of the below are good choices when the player is trying to gain favor with Pam.
Movie Theater
Once the player has unlocked the Movie Theater by completing the Missing Bundle, they can invite Pam to the movies by gifting her a movie ticket. Pam likes every movie the theater shows, so players can’t go wrong when choosing what to see. Pam’s favorite concessions areNachosandStardrop Sorbet.She likes most other concessions, but dislikes the following items:
Quests
Like most of Pelican Town’s villagers, Pam will occasionally request the player’s help with one thing or another. Accepting her errands will lead to an increase in friendship.
Friendship Benefits & Perks
As with most villagers, Pam will occasionally send the player a gift in the mail. The higher their friendship level, the more likely she is to send an item. Her gifts include Beer, which is not very useful, but alsoBattery PackandEnergy Tonic,which can be incredibly beneficial.
Recipes
Once the player reaches certain friendship thresholds,Pam will send them recipesin the mail.
